Do you put other's needs above your own?

One widespread problem that can last a lifetime, according to Dr Paul Lewis, is a tendency to put others’ needs ahead of your own. It becomes a habit and can go

unnoticed. It is a problem that feeds on itself, because we can never please all the people all the time – but we can certainly keep on trying, sidelining we want from life.

It can be changed.

Firstly, lose the ambivalence: Looking after yourself is not selfish. There are ways to balance getting what you want while still being considerate of others.

Secondly, get down to specifics: A calm look at real examples in your own life, no matter how apparently small or insignificant, helps clarify what you need to change. Identify what you are doing to ignore or postpone your own needs, then plan what would work

better, then do it.

Guilt and raised anxiety will surface, but by focusing on whether you are making the right changes, relief and liberation can follow

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