How do I know if it’s body dysmorphia or “normal” insecurity?

Most people have occasional appearance worries. BDD tends to involve persistent preoccupation, high distress, and repeated coping behaviours such as checking, reassurance seeking, comparing, or avoidance, which start to interfere with life.

Will therapy try to convince me my appearance worries aren’t real?

No. Therapy takes your distress seriously. The focus is on the cycle that keeps you stuck and the way anxiety and checking behaviours maintain doubt and shame.

Does checking mirrors or photos make it worse?

Often it does, because it temporarily reduces anxiety but teaches the brain that checking was necessary. Therapy helps you reduce these patterns gradually and safely.

What if I avoid social events because of how I look?

Avoidance is understandable, but it often strengthens the fear over time. Therapy supports a paced return to valued activities so your world expands again.

Can therapy help if I’ve changed my appearance but still feel stuck?

Yes. Many people find that altering appearance doesn’t resolve the underlying doubt and threat response. Therapy focuses on the maintaining mechanisms rather than chasing certainty.

Body Dysmorphia Therapy

Q: Do you offer therapy for BDD in London and online?

Yes. We offer therapy for body dysmorphia in London and online across the UK.

Body dysmorphia, often called Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), involves becoming preoccupied with perceived flaws in appearance. These concerns can feel intensely real and urgent, and they can take up a huge amount of mental space. You may spend long periods thinking about how you look, comparing yourself to others, or trying to feel certain that you look “okay.”

For many people, this isn’t vanity. It’s distress. You might look fine to others, but internally you feel stuck in doubt, discomfort, and shame. You may avoid photos, mirrors, certain lighting, or social situations, or you may feel driven to check, fix, cover, or seek reassurance.

At Hampstead Psychology, we offer evidence-based therapy for body dysmorphia in London and online across the UK. We help you understand what’s maintaining the cycle and build a practical, compassionate way forward.

This page is for information and does not replace a clinical assessment, diagnosis, or medical advice.

When body dysmorphia starts to take over

You might recognise some of these experiences:

You get stuck thinking about a specific feature or aspect of your appearance.
You feel a strong urge to check mirrors, photos, or your reflection, or you avoid them entirely.You compare yourself to others and feel worse afterwards.
You seek reassurance about how you look, but the relief doesn’t last.
You spend a lot of time trying to hide, fix, or control how you appear.
You avoid social events, dating, work situations, or being seen in certain lighting.
You feel intense shame or self-disgust, even when others don’t understand why.
You struggle to concentrate because appearance thoughts intrude repeatedly.
You feel unable to trust what you see, or you fear others are noticing the “flaw.”
You’ve tried changing your appearance, but the focus shifts or the doubt returns.

If this fits, it doesn’t mean you’re shallow or attention-seeking. BDD is usually maintained by anxiety, doubt, and compulsive coping strategies that make sense in the moment but strengthen the problem over time. Therapy helps you loosen that cycle.

How body dysmorphia can show up

Preoccupation and mental “checking”

Some people experience BDD as constant mental scanning: replaying how you looked, imagining how you appear to others, or trying to get certainty. The mind becomes stuck in analysis and threat monitoring, which keeps anxiety high.

Checking, reassurance, and avoidance

Many people get pulled into repeated behaviours designed to feel safe: checking reflections or images, seeking reassurance, comparing, researching, or avoiding situations entirely. These behaviours can reduce distress briefly, but they often increase doubt over time.

Shame, self-criticism, and feeling seen

BDD often carries deep shame. You might fear judgement, feel exposed, or believe that appearance determines worth, safety, or belonging. The problem is not simply how you look, but what your mind is telling you about what it means.

Social and relationship impact

BDD can shrink life. It can affect dating, intimacy, friendships, confidence at work, and willingness to be photographed or participate fully in daily life. Many people also feel lonely with it, because they don’t know how to explain what’s happening without feeling embarrassed.

Related difficulties we often see alongside body dysmorphia

BDD often overlaps with anxiety, low mood, social anxiety, perfectionism, rumination, and intense self-criticism. Some people notice compulsive habits around checking, comparing, or seeking certainty, and others experience strong avoidance and withdrawal.

Therapy considers the whole picture, while staying focused on the specific mechanisms that keep body dysmorphia going.

What keeps body dysmorphia going?

Body dysmorphia is often maintained by a loop that makes perfect sense in the moment.

A trigger shows up (a mirror, a photo, lighting, a social event, a thought).
Your mind signals threat: “Something is wrong,” “People will notice,” “I can’t cope with being seen.”
You respond with coping behaviours like checking, comparing, reassurance seeking, hiding, or avoiding.
You feel short-term relief or control.
But the brain learns that the threat was real, so the doubt returns and often grows.

Therapy helps you step out of this loop by reducing the behaviours that reinforce it, changing how you relate to intrusive appearance thoughts, and rebuilding a sense of safety that isn’t dependent on certainty.

How therapy for body dysmorphia helps

At Hampstead Psychology, we use approaches that are widely used in evidence-based psychological practice. Depending on your needs, this may include CBT, ACT, compassion-focused work, and schema-informed therapy.

In practice, therapy often involves understanding your BDD cycle clearly, reducing checking and avoidance in a paced way, and learning to tolerate uncertainty without trying to “solve” appearance anxiety. We also work with shame and self-criticism, because many people with BDD have learned to survive by being harsh on themselves, and that harshness tends to keep the threat system switched on.

The aim isn’t to convince you that you look “fine.” Reassurance usually doesn’t last. The aim is to reduce the grip of appearance preoccupation so you can live with more freedom, steadiness, and self-respect.

What to expect from sessions

We start by understanding your experience in context: what the focus is, what triggers it, what you do in response, and how it affects your life. From there, we build a shared map and a clear direction for therapy.

Sessions are collaborative and structured. You’ll leave with insight that feels usable and practical steps to try between sessions, reviewed and refined over time. The pace is important. We work carefully so change is steady and sustainable.

How long does therapy take?

This varies. Some people benefit from focused work on the maintaining cycle, especially checking, avoidance, and shame patterns. Others need longer, particularly when body dysmorphia has been present for years or is closely tied to trauma, bullying, perfectionism, or identity.

We review progress together so therapy stays purposeful and aligned with your goals.

Body dysmorphia therapy in Hampstead and online

We offer therapy for body dysmorphia in person in London and online across the UK. Many people prefer online sessions for privacy and convenience, and it can be very effective when you have a quiet, confidential space.

Take the next step

If body dysmorphia has been taking up your mental space, shrinking your life, or leaving you feeling ashamed and stuck, you don’t have to keep carrying it alone. With the right support, the grip of appearance preoccupation can loosen, and life can start to feel freer again.

Contact Hampstead Psychology to enquire about body dysmorphia therapy in London or online.

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