One widespread problem that can last a lifetime, according to Dr Paul Lewis, is a tendency to put others’ needs ahead of your own. It becomes a habit and can go unnoticed. It is a problem that feeds on itself, because we can never please all the people all the time – but we can certainly keep on trying, sidelining we want from life. It can be changed. Firstly, lose the ambivalence: Looking after yourself is not selfish. There are ways to balance getting what you want while still being...